Do you feel guilty about the amount of time you actually need to care for yourself properly... or do people around you send shaming signals when you engage in self-care too often, for too long, or at all?
Are you familiar with codependency?
Self-care shaming seems to have deep historical roots in some cultures... but it never fails to amaze me how some of the same cultures can praise public narcissism, yet shame personal self-nurture.
If you find yourself in such a culture or frame of mind, here are some ways to shift the perspective and free your mind...
Who do you spend the most time with? You. So, why on earth would you feel the need to apologize for making yourself a priority?
The situations that life throws at you quickly sap your resources, and generally those situations require time or money. You don’t empty your bank account without replenishing it, and you need to replenish yourself too.
Therefore, when you need...
Self-care is an integral part of your mental, physical, and overall health. You need it to help prevent burnout, chronic stress, or exhaustion. Think of it as a renewable energy source; without it your lights go dim, your white blood cells lose their glow, and your engine sputters out.
Self-care plays a significant role in mental health as well. It ensures you’re coping with stress in healthy ways, owning your feelings, and communicating assertively in your relationships. It not only prevents medical illness, but also manages it when needed, and connects you to proper lines of support.
If self-care is lacking, most relationships suffer too. No one knows how to care for you better than you do... and it can damage relationships when one or another person refuses to take care of themselves.
At the community level, chronic self-neglect can influence a variety of public health issues.
One of the most crucial steps in nurturing your self-care practice involves the work of exploring what you need most, in every single area of your life. This is such an important step, it can be considered the cornerstone of your entire practice.
What do you need right now in your home life?.. work life?.. love life?.. friends? What do you need more or less of? What do you need most in order to create a life you truly appreciate living?
It takes a great deal of honesty to get down the grit on this, and start asking yourself these types of questions.
If we don’t take upon the task of tending to tend our deepest needs, it is almost impossible to achieve our most important life goals. We can keep riding the hamster wheel, looping forever... watching our days, months and years melt away into infinity while we say...
"Maybe next year I'll start that project, get a different job, end (or start) that relationship - I'm too busy to deal with it right now!"
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Creating clear and healthy boundaries may well be one of the most crucial aspects of self-care. Some people argue that boundaries are even more important. I believe they go hand in hand, and that it’s not possible to address one without the other.
Boundaries are defined in multiple layers; and like every other aspect of self-care, they are completely unique to you. The key to working with boundaries involves defining these layers as clearly as possible for yourself and others.
It is the act of defining that creates a boundary, and makes it crystal clear what you want to remove or keep in your life.
“Boundaries are a life enhancing system of ‘yes’’ and ‘no’s.’ They are stop signs and borders you install to protect yourself so that it is clear you own your life, make good choices, and pursue the authentic expression of who you are in the way you live, love, give and relate.”
Personal boundaries are the...