If you’re the kind of person who is always thinking of ways to please others, it can be difficult to hold space for yourself. It may be very uncomfortable to adopt more assertive behaviors, but it’s an important thing to learn that can save you a ton of headaches.
But what if you really don’t know how to say no and really mean it? For some people, thinking about that kind of confrontation can make a person extremely uneasy. If this is a problem for you as well, then you will be happy to see that there are plenty of graceful ways to turn down requests.
When it’s important to say no, you should say no. Letting people push you into bad situations just because of who they are to you is never good for you, and could potentially cause harm.
Every move you make with another person is setting a precedent between both of you. If you set proper boundaries...
Sometimes self-care is about thriving and leveling up to the best you can be. At other times, it is very much about surviving and making it through difficult phases of life.
We all have challenging phases of life that bring times of loss, change, trauma, or any type of extreme stress; it is part of the universal experience, and it is part of being human. But it is during these times, that a special kind of self-care is called for.
“Coping” is the best word to describe what is needed, but you can also think of it as nurturing yourself the way you would do your own child if he or she was hurt.
The way that you address these issues can have a major effect on the way they affect you. The good news is that there are a variety of methods you can integrate into your tool box, and there is a great deal of overlap with essential overall self-care.
Not only can you use these tools to keep from getting sucked further into the rabbit...
Perfectionists strive to be the best at everything they do, and this isn't necessarily a bad thing. Many perfectionists excel in their fields. But that doesn't mean this personality trait isn't without its downsides.
When a minor setback feels like a major personal failure, that's when perfectionism becomes a burden. Perfectionists may hold themselves or others to standards they know are unrealistic. If your perfectionism interferes with your ability to form or maintain relationships, there are steps you can take to break free.
There is no work of art in any museum that's perfect. Every famous painting has plenty of blemishes that only a trained eye can spot.
The Mona Lisa is a great work of art, but if you look at it with X-ray fluorescence spectroscopy, you'll find that the painting is made up of over 40 layers of paint! Had DaVinci gone much further beyond the 40th coat, he could have lost the...